Archive for the 'Self-Esteem' Category
Sunday, February 28th, 2010
Plus Size Discrimination
This is just a video I recorded this morning about my feelings over these things in the media recently. It’s sort of a continuation of my previous post.
Saturday, February 27th, 2010
My Obesity Is A Burden To You?
All I’ve got to say about this is, how do you figure? I don’t generally write about debated topics like this and I try to just remain positive and focus on making the best of what I’ve got. I have never hidden the fact that I believe that if someone wants to have Gastric Bypass or Lapband or any other sort of procedure that will aid as a tool in them losing weight, they have every right to do so. I support anyone who makes the decision to change their body and health.
I do not support companies that would have you believe that their unregulated by the FDA “drugs” are going to cure your obesity. I am fully aware of the elevated risks of type 2 diabetes developing among fat people. I am not one of the people in the fat community that goes around saying fat is good and fat is where it’s at and skinny bitches are just mad etc… However, I am aware that I am a very large woman with A LOT of adipose tissue on my body. I realize that I am someone with food issues. I am also someone who has done the diet thing, and done the exercise and eating right thing, and the Alli thing, and the Meridia thing. I’ve also done the binge purge thing. Got five teeth missing in the back of my head thanks to the binging and purging I did from the time I was seventeen till about twenty one, twenty two.
Why did I do this? Well because everyone else told me I should lose weight. My entire life I was told I should lose weight. I was put on Weight Watchers at ten years old. I dealt with strangers, and family members telling me I was too fat, calling me names, and verbally and mentally abusing me my entire life. This all from the people who were doing this because they “loved me”. I have faced humiliation, discrimination, and have been physically assaulted because I am fat. So what I want to know at the end of the day is, who and when did anyone decide that anyone else has the right to tell me what to do with my body or to abuse me and discriminate against me because I have too much fat on my body?
I think people who feel that fat people should be taxed are out of their damn minds. I watched Bill Maher last week and I like him a lot, however I was sorely disappointed at him and everyone on his panel all making fat jokes and agreeing that we should be fined and should be humiliated on a flight if someone else deems us as too big to sit in a seat without having to buy an extra seat. I really wonder if the government were to tell Wanda Sykes she was going to be double fined for being African-American and gay if she would be behind being taxed based on your genetic make up? And just to set something straight here, I have nothing against race or sexual orientation. I’m using it to illustrate a point. Discrimination is not ok in this country UNLESS the person is FAT.
For the record to all the people who feel they are the authority on fat people and how we are costing them billions of dollars, that they carry the burden of the cost of what our weight does to increase health-care costs. Oh I’m sorry, I missed the part where people were having their taxes raised because I ate a doughnut this year. Are you fucking kidding me? Fact is, nobody knows where their tax money goes, it’s all bullshit propaganda that people who are openly discriminant against fat people use to try and argue their point. I have not had the need to go to a doctor in eight and a half years, only recently having to go to the E.R. and a couple of physicians for severe allergic outbreaks of chronic hives. Still, it’s not a fat related disease. Prior to that, I really didn’t need to go to a doctor for any fat related illness, I only went for routine visits because I actually had coverage when I was employed full-time outside of my home. Every since I have become self-employed my choices are be denied health-care insurance by most of the major insurance companies OR, pay upwards to $500-$600 per month to get put into a high risk pool. So I don’t want to hear shit about I cost anyone anything because of my weight. I am the only person who is burdened by the excess poundage I carry and everyone else can mind their own business about what I do with my life.
What I have finally come to the conclusion about the abuse we get from society is because of our own self-loathing that we abuse ourselves with internally everyday that we bombard ourselves with. Telling ourselves that we are less deserving of many of the things that “regular” society feels they are only privileged to have. Once the self-abuse stops, then the rest will stop on the outside. Until then, why don’t people start fighting to have corporations and lobbies stopped and heavily fined? Why don’t people fight against companies who make things that kill us, like cigarettes, or genetically altered crops, or cloned beef, or corn-syrup laden processed foods that corps pay millions of dollars a year to brainwash our kids and us into wanting? How come the government taxed the smokers but not the criminals making the product to begin with? Why, because of lobbies and money. Why hasn’t the $85 billion dollar diet industry helped with the so called “burden” that fat people have created? They can’t because they are too busy lining their own pockets off of the people who hate themselves enough to buy the shit they sell.
Be beautiful, accept yourself, LOVE YOURSELF! Most importantly, tell everyone else to fuck off and mind their own damn business.
Monday, November 23rd, 2009
New Dating Advice Line
I was busy this weekend putting together a new idea I’ve had for a few days now based on my own life experiences. I actually love talking on the phone to people who want to know more about the same things that interest me and them. I have a few different websites that are about different parts of my life, this one is based completely on me as a plus size woman and my self worth etc. At times I’m sure we can all admit that dating men comes into play with our self-worth, especially if we have dated bad men. You know the types, the bad boys.
Well I know that for sure I definitely do. I’ve dealt with a lot of them and as a result I’m pretty versed in a lot of the bullshit and drama they put us women through. But then again, maybe you just need advice on a man and none of your girlfriends are around to talk. That’s where I come in. I’m not about giving people negative advice about the people that they are involved with. What I am here for is to listen to what you want to talk about and if you want some advice or feedback I would be happy to give it to you. If you want to take some of your power back from a guy who just seems to thwart you at every turn by his ways, hey give me a call.
This is not the kind of advice line where I’m going to blow smoke up your ass and tell you all of the nicey-nice things that you want to hear. It’s real, and sometimes that’s exactly what we need to wake us up to the messed up things that bad boys do!
